So recently a 'friend' posted her engagement pics. On Facebook. So did many more actually. I am in that age bracket where it will keep happening for quite some time, and whenever it happens, it makes me happy on some level if they are, or were my actual friends at some point of time, or if in my eyes they are really nice people. On the other hand, if they are just Facebook 'friends, then the happiness factor is well, er, ok-ish?
This common reaction is followed by a 'like' most of the times. It has become a reflex action sort of. And what follows next is a strange, or not so strange mixture of feelings, none too complicated as I would like to make them sound, in my quest of denial. Tinge of envy, slight disappointment - my number isn't up yet, the counter-voice that my life is my own, and its OK if I choose to walk a it bit differently.
It all disappears more or less, when that Facebook window is closed. I wonder if others have experienced a similar feeling on Facebook, or any other social network, real or online, with regards to any issue, similar or different.
A friend posted a debating update about whether Facebook makes us happier or lonelier. Its funny, how our need for socialization itself is at times a double edged sword. I have seen the same repeating in real life interactions as well, but the scale is massive in online because you are 'connected' with so many more people. Peer pressure, may lie at the core.
The society around me has more or less dictated life like follows:
Kid --> Education --> Adult --> Career (Sometimes optional) --> Marriage --> Kid --> Repeat
A deviation from the non optional (as deemed by the majority) is likely to be viewed by the majority as a failure of sorts.
I find the paradox in a human being especially amazing - one who wishes and cherishes, above all else, perhaps, his freedom, his free will and his independence, but who is also most likely to live his life on a path charted by his peers.
I wonder, if each one of us closed our eyes and opened them into a reality where we are indeed free to follow our own consciousness, what destiny would be carved by our very two hands, free from the likely uninvited helpings hands of others?